Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Healing
Healing occurs in the mind, heart, spirit, and body. Any system of self-improvement that does not address all of these essential components of the human being is lacking. I believe this so strongly I’ll repeat it: Any attempt to heal only one aspect of yourself without addressing the others, will ultimately lead to imbalance and unhappiness.
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The BIg Heart Path
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​"Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends."
Hafiz
I believe that humans are on Earth to create and experience love. In other incarnations—as angels, gods, animals, trees, or pure and radiant streams of energy—we may be able to experience other forms of love, but never in the same uniquely special way we do as human beings: that tender, vulnerable, consciously mortal way of human loving.
If someone were to ask me, "Why do you keep incarnating on Earth?" I could offer something lofty, like being of service to humanity. Or I could be more honest and say, "For the pizza and the love."
What a miraculous gift it is to love as a human being. That we are capable of generating such a profound force astounds me. And no matter how much love we offer, there is always more we can create, more we can channel. Despite all the risks and the pain—the heartbreaks, the abandonments, the anxiety that comes with caring so deeply—we continue to love. Our hearts are broken open again and again, and still we keep loving. What incredible beings we are.
To experience love within the intimate container of relationship is a true blessing, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect that blessing in both my personal life and my work with couples. I hold the sacred bond of a committed partnership as one of the highest forms of embodied spiritual practice available to us.
I understand that not everyone holds the same perspective as I do. Our beliefs about love are deeply personal, shaped by our values, our cultures, the relationships we witnessed in childhood, our religious or non-religious upbringings, and the stories we absorbed through film and literature. They are also shaped by our longings and wounds—by ego, fantasy, desire, fear, and the imprint of past loves. Love appears in countless forms: romantic, ecstatic, unconditional, everlasting, platonic, fleeting, playful, soothing, erotic, karmic, dharmic...the expressions are endless.
And yet, across this entire spectrum—whether understand love as an evolutionary process of survival, bonding, and procreation, or as a sacred vehicle for soul transformation and communion with the Divine—we cannot deny that love is one of the most powerful forces in existence.
In the Sufi creation story, the Universe began as a single Divine Totality—one boundless, unified field of sacred energy.​
Yet within this state of Oneness, there is a paradox. Though complete, there was no "Other" in existence to behold the One with love, awe, and devotion. In that absence, the Oneness at the beginning of time began to feel a Divine longing—not born of lack, but of the desire to be seen, known, and loved by an Other.
From this longing, creation unfolded. The Oneness of God divided itself into the myriad forms of life, and in doing so, created the conditions for reunion; only through separation could creation embark on the journey of returning to fullness through the sacred experience of being seen, known, and loved by the Beloved. Love became the bridge between division and wholeness.
When we are deeply seen, known, and loved by our Beloved, we are, in a very real sense, participating in Divine communion. Through sacred union, we reunite with the One—as the One—through love.
Ram Dass once described sacred relationship as a kind of triangle. “One in which there are the two partners and a third force. This third force is that which emerges out of the interaction of these two partners. It is the shared awareness that lies behind the two of them. They are in this yoga of a relationship and have come together as one, in order to find the shared awareness that exists behind them, allowing them to then dance as two so that the twoness brings them into one and the oneness dances as two. That is the kind of vibrating relationship between the one and the two, so that people are both separate and yet they are not separate."
I refer to this third force—the 'one' that is created between two people in a sacred relationship—as The Big Heart. It is the consecrated vessel of the relationship itself: a living relational field where two souls direct their love, presence, and devotion beyond the individual self. By orienting toward this shared field, lovers loosen their identification with separateness and remember the deeper unity from which they came.
The Big Heart can also be understood as an invisible sanctuary. It holds not only each partner's needs, dreams, values, and longings, but also the shared desires and subtle currents of the relationship itself. Every word spoken, every action taken, and every intention held within the partnership either nourishes or diminishes The Big Heart. In a truly sacred union, choices are made in reverence to this third force, so that love becomes not just a feeling, but a shared spiritual practice.
Next-Level Couples Counseling
The Big Heart Path is a private, intimate, year-long journey designed for couples at all stages of relationship, whether you are newly in love or have spent decades building a life together.
For couples at the beginning of a new relationship, The Big Heart Path offers an extraordinary opportunity to build a solid foundation rooted in mindful awareness, shared values, and aligned intention. From the very start, you'll be guided to show up as your most honest, authentic selves, creating the conditions for the work we do together to be received and integrated with integrity. As you move forward together through the program and beyond, you'll be supported with the practices and tools needed to remain in a powerful, happy relationship for years to come. Rather than unconsciously creating patterns and wounds that later require mending, you'll begin the voyage together with presence, emotional clarity, and an attuned compass pointing toward your shared True North, so you don't lose your way at sea.
For couples in established marriages or long-term partnerships, The Big Heart Path serves as an invitation to deepen what is already flourishing, or to consciously re-birth your relationship if has grown stagnant or strained. Perhaps your connection is already strong, and you're seeking even greater intimacy, reverence, and aliveness within the union. Or maybe things have plateaued, and one or both of you feels unseen, unsupported, or uncelebrated—or the relationship is carrying unresolved trauma or outdated dynamics. In either case, The Big Heart Path will help you clarify what needs reinvigoration, guide you through healing and reconnection, reignite passion & joy, and support the transformation of old patterns that no longer serve your shared journey. It will also help you gently refine any other areas blocking love from flowing freely between you.
Whatever the unique story of your relationship may be, I am honored to walk alongside you on this path. Together, we will move toward a reality that honors both the dreams of each individual and the evolving vision of the relationship itself.
Areas of Cultivation
Along The Big Heart Path, couples are guided to cultivate & embody the following practices, mindsets, and ways of being within their relationship:
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Creating a powerful, nourishing "Big Heart" container
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Refining your shared path and vision together
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Practicing conscious, peaceful communication
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Embracing play, excitement & shared joy
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Learning constructive, mindful approaches to conflict
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Meditating for clarity, connection and compassion
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Participating in ceremonies to celebrate, heal, or let go
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Committing to honesty and transparency
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Understanding communion in partnership
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Exploring and deepening sensual and sexual union
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Expressing deep appreciation, devotion, and awe
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Welcoming vulnerability and courageous openness
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Holding space for one another with presence and care
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Building, restoring, and sustaining trust
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Supporting one another's healing from past wounds
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Knowing and accepting one another's most authentic selves
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Feeling truly heard, seen, loved, respected, and valued
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Learning the sacred art of reverence in relationship
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Relationship as ceremony
“Where there is love, there is life.”
Mahatma Gandhi
The Structure of the Program
The Big Heart Path is a private, year-long journey composed of fifteen themed modalities, each thoughtfully designed to address core desires, needs, or challenges that commonly arise in romantic partnership. Couples meet with me twice per month for dedicated Couples Counseling sessions, during which we explore the current theme and how it relates to your unique relationship dynamic. Throughout the journey, we also weave in relevant Connection Experiences—meditations, rituals, and ceremonies—that invite deeper intimacy, dissolve resistance, surface hidden insights, catalyze necessary shifts, and allow essential truths to be felt with unmistakable clarity. While Couples Counseling sessions last two hours per session, Connection Experiences tend to run longer due to their immersive nature.
Between our time together, you'll be encouraged to focus on integration—embodying the wisdom uncovered during our work together through self-guided connection practices, meaningful conversations, pattern shifts, and relationship experiments designed to help you anchor new ways of relating.
That said, The Big Heart Path will always be adapted to honor your relationship's specific needs, including what you're comfortable exploring, where you wish to go deeper, and what brings each of you the greatest sense of progress and fulfillment. Neither partner will ever be asked to compromise their values or cross their boundaries.
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When helpful, individual sessions for each partner can be arranged to support the collective relationship.
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An optional, customized retreat may be incorporated into your journey, held in a beautiful location either within the U.S. or abroad. This retreat be co-led by one or more guest facilitators, depending on what your relationship is asking for at this stage.
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If you're not based in Las Vegas, the Couples Counseling sessions can be conducted entirely over Zoom. Then, we can arrange for you to travel to Las Vegas twice over the course of the program for in-person "mini retreats" where you'll experience the deeper ceremonial and embodiment work.
If you find yourselves intrigued by this program—or in need of it—I invite you to schedule an Introductory Session. This session allows us to meet, explore whether there's a felt resonance between us, and discuss how The Big Heart Path can best support your unique relationship. The Introductory Session is offered at my standard hourly rate, with no obligation to enroll in the program.
I work with clients from wide range of spiritual and non-spiritual backgrounds. Your beliefs will always be respected, and you won’t be asked to change them at any point during our work together.
I was raised Catholic, but I consider myself a spiritual "free agent," unattached to any single doctrine or tradition—though I've explored many. I'm comfortable working with Christians, Buddhists, Jews, atheists, Taoists, plant medicine practitioners, existentialists, Muslims, Sufis, Mormons, non-dualists, agnostics, pagans, druids, priestesses—and however else you may identify. This same openness applies to gender identity, sexual orientation, race, cultural background, and beyond.
The Big Heart Path is not a religious program—though can easily hold space for your religious or spiritual worldview. This journey is meant to be adaptive, responsive, and personalized. The program is mercurial by design, shaped around what each couple needs and desires, including the degree (or absence) of spiritual integration.
And for those of you who don't consider yourselves spiritual at all—and maybe even find words like communion and Divinity a bit off-putting—read on! What follows is a beautiful, scientifically grounded love story between two, brilliant, atheist minds: Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan.
"F​or small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love."​
Carl Sagan
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In the 1970's, astronomer Carl Sagan and his beloved fiancée, Ann Druyan, were part of a NASA team of scientists tasked with a nearly impossible feat: deciding what to place on a golden record affixed to the Voyager—an unmanned spacecraft bound for the far reaches of the galaxy, carrying humanity’s first message to the stars.
Ann later described ow difficult it was to determine what, exactly, should be included on that golden archive... that single disc was meant to carry the story of life on Earth, the distilled essence of the human experience. An archive that would, someday—maybe—be deciphered by other-worldly intelligences, should they ever come in contact with the spacecraft carrying it.
When the project was complete, the spaceship blasted off into space carrying music, photographs, greetings in 55 languages, a collection of Earthly sounds, a message from the United Nations, and... an EEG recording of a young woman's brainwaves as she thought about the man she loved.
It was Ann herself, madly in love with Carl, who volunteered to have her most intimate, love-charged thoughts encoded & launched into space—for non-human entities to someday find and catch a glimpse of what is surely one of the most precious and extraordinary experiences in the entire Universe: to love as a human being.
So I ask you: What kind of relationship are you cultivating?
Is it a love you'd deem worthy of blasting to the farthest corners of the cosmos?
This program is my most tender offering. It's the culmination of wisdom gained over fifteen years of Couples Counseling, Spiritual Guidance, and Ceremonies work with clients—alongside decades of my own dedicated cultivation practice.
If, after requesting & viewing The Big Heart Path materials, you feel that this program is a great fit for your journey, I would be honored. I approach this work with an immense amount of integrity & compassion—not only because it's the ethical thing to do, but also because love and sacred relationships are among my most deeply held values, and I do everything I can to honor and protect them, both in my own life and in the relationships I’m invited to support.
If you're ready to devote yourselves to your relationship's unique process of metamorphosis, I couldn't be happier to be chosen as your trusted guide.
Let's go on a pilgrimage for a year and devote ourselves to Love. You, as the dedicated travelers. Me, as your experienced guide.
We’ll journey to the epicenter of your Love—not just to master practices, but to tend to the sanctuary that you create together. This is where Love becomes not only a feeling, but a shared devotion, a daily practice, and a sacred space where your individual truths and collective dreams can be witnessed, honored, and transformed. Along this path, you’ll learn how to protect, nourish, and evolve the very container that holds your union: The Big Heart.
If you're longing to create a conscious union rooted in authentic connection, deep devotion, peaceful communication, and a commitment to what matters most—to each of you, and to what you're creating together—I invite you to begin the journey along The Big Heart Path.
Below, you'll find an overview of The Big Heart Path. The program is comprised of 15 themed modalities, each represented by an image and a written description. Also woven into the journey, but not pictured here, are curated readings, podcasts, and self-guided connection practices offered throughout the course of the program. These additional elements are not listed below because they are uniquely tailored to each couple.
Take your time exploring the program details and feeling into the rhythm & energy of The Big Heart Path. After the modality descriptions, you will find optional add-ons, answer to FAQs, and how to take the next step, should you decide to move forward. I'm so glad you're here!​​
The Big Heart Path
Initial Guidance Session​​
*Two Hour Introductory Session*
This session is more than a consultation—it’s a sacred doorway into the work. You'll have the opportunity to share the truths that matter to you most: your deepest values, dreams, goals, beliefs, questions, and challenges with me—and to explore how The Big Heart Path can best support the evolution of your relationship. We'll also feel into whether there is a genuine resonance between us, and if I am the best counselor & guide for your relationship's transformation. This session is not simply informational; it's an opening into truth, trust, and clarity about the path ahead.
The Big Heart
*What exactly is "The Big Heart"?*
In this modality, we'll explore The Big Heart as both a sanctuary for your relationship and a vessel for profound personal evolution. You'll learn how to create a relationship in service to the Big Heart—one that is not merely about compatibility or fulfillment, but about individual and shared awakening. We’ll explore how to embody that truth through presence, devotion, & conscious practice. We'll also uncover any areas of resistance or hesitancy, and refine your understanding of The Big Heart so that it aligns with the distinct shape, style, and needs of your unique relationship.
Preparing for The Beloved
*The Greatest Love Story Ever Told*
We'll explore what you truly need in a Sacred Relationship, beginning with the gentle unraveling of any lingering patterns, habits, or attachments that no longer serve you or the relationship. You'll how to cultivate the internal and external conditions that allow you to show up as the Beloved for your Dharmic (Soul) Partner. We'll also examine the relationship roles you currently embody and begin practicing meditative and intuitive reflection—opening space to access the quiet wisdom that lives beneath the noise of the mind and the currents of emotion.
Heart Affinity: a Prayer
*Heart-Centered Connection Experience*
This ancient Buddhist practice—adapted into a contemporary meditative offering—is a gentle but powerful heart-opener. Some couples choose to add this guided meditation to the start of a Couples Counseling session in the “Through Conflict to Communion” modality (resulting in a longer session, but one in which you will arrive in a very present, peaceful, open-hearted state, right from the start.) Or, this can stand on its own as a separate experience to restore inner harmony and reconnect you to the deeper rhythm of compassion. If you are interested in sound therapy, an introduction to that method of healing, attunement, and relaxation can easily be woven in to this Connection Experience.
Relationship as Ceremony
*Worship, Reverence, & Awe
in Sacred Relationships*
In this modality, we'll regard your relationship not just as a connection between two people—but as a living ceremony, a spiritual path, and one of the finest opportunities for cultivation on Earth. You'll begin to practice the art of embodied presence: how to truly be with one another. We'll discuss ways to infuse more reverence, awe, ritual, worship, openness, trust, compassion, honor, and peace into your relationship. You'll also learn how to create intentional spaces—moments of pause, beauty, and stillness—where worship & wonder are invited into the fabric of daily partnership. This is where the ordinary becomes holy, where the home becomes a temple, and where the Beloved is not only your partner, but the Divine itself, meeting you again and again through human form.
Through Conflict to Communion
*The Art of Conscious Communication*
At the heart of every sacred relationship lies the capacity to communicate with truth, tenderness, and awareness. In this modality, you'll learn how to bring greater intentionality, clarity, & compassion to the way you speak, listen, respond, and repair. We’ll discuss the essential inner conditions for healthy dialogue, how to prepare for big conversations, how to stay connected when things feel difficult or uncertain, how to differentiate between personal triggers & relational truths, and the difference between self-conflict & interpersonal conflict. You’ll be introduced to the principles of non-violent communication: identifying unmet needs, listening without defensiveness, and speaking from a place of vulnerability & integrity. We’ll also work with the concept of archetypal sub-personalities. And you'll learn when to compromise vs. lovingly hold your ground.
Sacred Check-Ins
*Nourishing Individual & Shared
Needs & Dreams*
Every thriving relationship requires intentional space for reflection, accountability, and realignment. In this modality, you'll learn a structured yet soulful practice that allows each partner to share their most meaningful dreams, purposes, goals, and relationship needs in a way that prompts heartfelt curiosity and support. During a Sacred Check-In, you will also share how well you believe you're showing up for your partner's needs. Then, together, you'll reflect on the evolution of your relationship and the strides you've made toward your collective dreams & goals.
Liberate
*Connection Experience: Letting Go*
*The Art of Letting Go*
This ritual is a personalized release ceremony designed to meet you at a threshold. The ceremony may involve any combination of: burial, fire, nature-based rituals, home/land clearings, the deconstruction of old narratives & identities, releasing your partner from your projections of them, somatic healing, and Shamanic/Medicinal Sound Healing. Crafted uniquely for your process, this sacred letting go becomes an act of love—making space for what is ready to be born. If desired, this modality can be moved to any point along your journey.
To Be Held
*Connection Experience: Holding*
Physical closeness—when approached with presence and reverence—becomes a powerful bridge between nervous systems, a balm for emotional distance, and a foundation for deeper intimacy. During this Connection Experience, you'll be guided through a series of practices designed to highlight the value of non-sexual physical connection. We'll explore trust, polarity, safety, playfulness, surrender, and tenderness through activities like: Love Locks, The Dance of Opposites, The Cuddle Sutra, Love Jiu Jitsu, and Devotional Touch. After each practice is introduced, you'll be given time & space alone (just the two of you) to practice, before we join together again.
Sex
*A Conversational Deep Dive into your Sexual Expression of Love*
One of the most vulnerable and vital dimensions of partnership is sex. This modality is all about passion, feeling desired & desiring, honoring preferences & boundaries, deep trust, & how to create a sexual connection that is sensual, fiery, playful, heartfelt, & soul-full. We'll discuss how to talk about sex in a non-threatening way, & we'll tend to any wounds, shame, or past imprints that may be impacting your sexual expression—and offer space for healing. Additionally, we'll explore the impact of life transitions, stress, emotional disconnection, or seasons of solitude that may have led to a softening of desire or distance from sexual intimacy.
लीला
*Joy, Meaning, and लीला 'Lila'—
Divine Play in your relationship*
The Sanskrit word lila translates to divine play and reminds us that the sacred doesn't always need to carry so much weight and be so serious. Here, we'll explore how to bring more joy, levity, and humor into your relationship. We'll discuss the 30,000 foot perspective and learn light-hearted ways to address non-crucial tensions & annoyances in your relationship (without dismissing the truth behind them.) You'll discover playful archetypes that live within each of you, and how these expressions can bring balance & creative renewal to your bond. And we'll cover: knowing when not to play.​
painting by Daniel Mirante
For Love​
*Shamanic/Medicinal Sound Healing Connection Experience*
This deeply meditative couples ceremony is co-led by my trusted healing partner, Heart-Centered Sound Therapist Jessica Foutz. Together, we offer an immersive experience that uses sacred sound to cleanse & recalibrate the body, mind, and spirit. You'll also have the option of receiving the South American plant medicine hapé—though it's not necessary to feel the benefits of this special experience; it is merely a respected intensifier. This ceremony will illuminate the power of sound in healing, and will be reflective of my training within several shamanic lineages & indigenous healing traditions.
Power + Identity
*Uncovering Your Relationship's Unique Identity, Power, and Gifts*
At this point along the journey, we'll uncover what makes your relationship distinctly powerful & purposeful. You'll be guided to individually unearth and embody your unique mythopoetic identities—and we'll explore how these identities shape the relationship, and what gifts each of you brings when you stand fully in who you are. We'll also illuminate the relationship's own identity and power, and align your partnership with a greater sense of meaning, purpose, and integrity. You will be reminded that your relationship is mythical, magical, and wholly yours to create, entirely as you wish.
Joyful Celebration and/or New Commitment Ceremony
*Customized Connection Experience*
You may keep this final experience as a private one, or involve friends and family. This offering honors the totality of your journey & blesses the adventures yet to come. You may choose a ceremony to: celebrate your Love, make a new commitment to each other, or receive another Medicinal/Shamanic Sound Healing (with the lovely Jessica Foutz + optional hapé.) Or—you are welcome to dream up any other form of a ritual or ceremony that feels true to your relationship, marking the end of the program while recognizing that The Big Heart Path continues, always, as the shared ground you walk together.
Through the Gateway
*Connection Experience:
Nature as Healer & Holder*
Held in communion with the natural world, this half-day rite of passage may include any combination of: moving through symbolic portals/gateways that lead to a desired future, (or a courageous crossing into the mysterious unknown), a True Self activity to further acknowledge and solidify the identities, powers & gifts uncovered in the previous modalities, and a humble recognition of (and appreciation for) the natural world's support of your ongoing, transformative journey together.
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Intuit
*Creating a Sanctuary for Truth*
This modality invites you to cultivate both an inner landscape & an external environment where Truth can be best received with clarity. We'll dive deep into intuition development: the subtle art of listening deeply—beyond emotional turbulence and mental noise—to the steady knowing that lives within. We'll also explore what may be blocking you from accessing your Truth. This modality can be integrated into a Couples Counseling Session or approached as a stand-alone offering. Either way, it's best towards the start of The Big Heart Path, as it lays the foundation for a clear, inner compass that will guide the rest of your journey.
Retreat
*Nourish, Expand, & Accelerate*
A rare and incredible opportunity for immersive transformation, this custom, private retreat is designed around your relationship's specific intentions & needs. Held in the Pacific Northwest, Mexico, South America, or a location of your choosing, the retreat can be co-led by trusted healers & facilitators specializing in: somatic healing, yoga, grief therapy, nature immersions, trauma release, plant medicine ceremonies, physical detoxification, or psycho-spiritual expansion. To note: if you feel called to work with indigenous elders & healers, that can be arranged as well.
El Encanto de las Piedras, by Pablo Amaringo
Tribe
*Group Shamanic/Medicinal Sound Ceremony with optional Hapé*
Co-led by Sound Therapist Jessica Foutz, this "Healing Waters" ceremony brings together a collective of sincere participants—your friends, family, or chosen companions—and will illuminate the amplified power of a communal healing environment. Group ceremonies are typically several hours longer than private/couples ceremonies, and while less individual attention is received, there is something truly unforgettable that happens when a group of special, dedicated people gather together to heal, explore, expand, and love.
FAQ
Investment
The financial commitment for this intimate, private, year-long program is $12,000 per couple, if paid in full, or four payments of $3,240. For those preferring to pay in cash, there is a discount offered—please inquire for details.
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What's Included
The Big Heart Path is a rare, profound commitment to your relationship's evolution, and includes:
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48 hours of private Couples Counseling Sessions with Jaclyn Costello. You may choose to divide this time as either, two 2-hour sessions per month or one 4-hour monthly intensive—and you're welcome to alternate between formats based on your needs.
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​18 hours of uniquely curated Connection Experiences. These immersive experiences may include: Shamanic & Medicinal Sound Ceremonies, Intimacy Meditations, Rituals for Letting Go, Shamanic Healings, Prayers & Blessings, Somatic Healings, Nature-Based Rituals, Celebration Ceremonies, and New Commitment Ceremonies.
Note: all costs for guest facilitators participating in these experiences are included.
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Are there any additional costs?
Underneath the "More" category, you'll find optional modalities that can be added to the program. The "Intuit" and "Tribe" modalities may be included either at the hourly rate of $180 ($150 for cash payments), or swapped in lieu of existing modalities or Couples Counseling sessions—at no extra cost. The "Retreat" listed in the "More" category is a completely customized experience, created specifically for you, upon request. The cost for this addition varies greatly depending on the location, co-facilitators, and the overall scope of the retreat. For those who are mindful of additional expenses, many of the existing modalities can be woven into the retreat—rather than having our team create an entirely new set of experiences, ceremonies, and intensives. This approach allows for a rich, meaningful immersion while keeping the retreat more financially accessible.
On another note, some couples may also choose to add extra Couples Counseling sessions throughout the year—especially if moving through a particularly intense or transformative period. For instance, you might prefer weekly sessions during certain months instead of the standard bi-monthly rhythm. Any additional sessions are offered at my hourly rate, but there is never pressure to add more sessions.​​
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Is there an average age of couples who participate in this program?
I've worked with couples ranging from their early 20s to their 70s. There is something beautiful and profound to be uncovered at all stages of a relationship, and The Big Heart Path is crafted to meet you exactly where you are. Because this is a private experience, every aspect of the journey will be adapted specifically for your relationship—to meet your specific spiritual, emotional, and psychological needs. Regardless of your age, ethnic background, religion, sexual orientation, or life stage—this program will be a meaningful opportunity for your relationship to be seen in its truth, held with great compassion, and guided in alignment with your unique intentions and goals.
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Do we need prior experience with meditation?
Nope! I've worked with seasoned Dzogchen monks and Vajrayana practitioners, skeptical husbands coerced into the program under threat of divorce, soulful folks unaffiliated with any particular tradition, complete beginners at the start of their "inward journey"—and all sorts of other couples! I'll meet you exactly where you are. This program is about authenticity, not spiritual performance.
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What if we decide to travel or need to take time off for other obligations?
You are welcome to pause your journey at any time—as long as the program is completed within 18 months. Life is dynamic, and so is this program. Illness, travel, family obligations, integration periods—all of these are honored within the rhythm of this container. In light of that, The Big Heart Path was designed as an integrated and continuous journey, serving as both a catalyst for awakening and an incubator for the embodiment of that newfound awareness. So while flexibility is built into the program, I encourage you to avoid long breaks unless they are in support of your relationship's positive transformation—such as time needed to metabolize a deep transformation, take a spiritual pilgrimage (...or relaxing vacation) together, or dedicate time to other meaningful activities that nurture your relationship.
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Will you be traveling or taking time off for other obligations?
Yes, likely—though always with care and communication. As along-time practitioner and cultivator, I occasionally travel for solo retreats, trainings, and nature-based residencies that nourish my ability to show up fully for this work. These journeys strengthen the medicine I bring to our sessions, and I approach them with devotion and discernment.
If travel is required, I will inform you in advance. You may choose to continue your sessions virtually while I'm away (as long as I'm not in a remote region), or pause until my return. If we do pause, I'll send a curated bundle of supportive resources—books, meditations, practices—to keep you grounded in the energy of the work. Importantly, my time away will not count toward your 18-month completion timeline. (For example, if I leave for a month, you will have 19 months to complete the program.)​​​​​​​
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Do we have to use plant medicines?
Not at all. Some ceremonies within the program offer the option to work with hapé or a 25-herb tea, but neither of those medicines is necessary for you to experience results. Similarly, the optional Retreat may include stronger plant medicines, depending on your goals and the guest facilitators/healers involved—but again, this is by choice only.
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What if we need to do individual work first, before we're ready to embark on this journey?
Early in The Big Heart Path there's a modality called "Preparing For the Beloved" that speaks directly to this. Beyond that, the program included additional opportunities for solo reflection and individual refinement woven throughout the collective journey. You also have the option attend some of your monthly sessions individually, should that serve your purpose. However, if you feel your relationship would best be supported by focusing on intensive personal work before beginning this path together, I encourage you to explore SOAR's The Initiation—a year-long solo journey of deep personal evolution. Some couples choose to begin there, individually, before coming together through The Big Heart Path.
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Many of the modalities in The Initiation are rooted in contemplative spirituality and meditative practice, with a strong foundation in indigenous, Earth-based shamanic healing. It carries a distinct signature—deeply inward an individually soul-centered. In contrast, The Big Heart Path centers on "relating" and "relationship". It is more universal in scope, drawing from a wide range of relational wisdom traditions, psychological frameworks, communication theory, and embodied relationship practices. It is designed to support couples across many backgrounds—regardless of spiritual/non-spiritual orientation—and offers a grounded, accessible path into conscious partnership.
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How does The Big Heart Path program work if we don't live in Las Vegas?
It's simple! All Couples Counseling sessions will take place over Zoom, allowing you to fully engage with the program from wherever you are. As for the Connection Experiences, you have two options:
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Option 1: Travel to Las Vegas for two in-person intensives (or mini retreats) spaced across the year. These retreats will include all guided meditations, rituals & ceremonies experience all the meditations, rituals, & ceremonies. The first visit will include: "Heart Affinity: a Prayer," "Liberate," "To Be Held," and "For Love". The second visit will include "Through the Gateway "and "Joyful Celebration and/or New Commitment Ceremony."
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Option 2: Travel to Las Vegas for one in-person intensive/mini-retreat, and choose to complete the remaining Connection Experiences as part of a longer, customized "Retreat" in the Pacific Northwest or abroad (or elsewhere in the U.S., if you have a special location in mind.)
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For Option 1, there is no extra program cost. For Option 2, there will be an added program cost to account for my travel (and possible Jessica's, depending on your preferences), since we will be traveling to lead the private retreat.
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Will all our relationship problems be solved by the end of this program?
That's a big ask... and we can certainly work towards that, but the possibility also remains that you will need to continue working on certain areas of your relationship after the program is complete. Most people I know (myself included) are lifelong cultivators. The practice of self-refinement (and refinement of relationship) never really ends—it simply becomes more sophisticated and subtle. If nothing else, you will receive a ton of clarity, life-changing wisdom, evergreen tools, and value from this program. And once you both fully embody the wisdom & awareness that you uncover, your relationship will be fundamentally, permanently, positively changed.
By the end of The Big Heart Path, you and your Beloved will likely have entered a new dimension of conscious partnership—one rooted in reverence, emotional truth, and shared devotion. While your relationship will continue to evolve—as all living things do—you’ll walk forward with a clear and embodied understanding of your unique dynamic, a deepened capacity to meet challenges with care and skill, and a sacred framework for sustaining love that is intentional, soulful, and true. Even as new seasons arise, you will know how to return—to each other, to The Big Heart, and to the practices that deepen your communion.
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Are other guides & healers involved?
There can be! And they are incredible. Below you’ll find a few of the facilitators available to support your journey.
I have dear friends/colleagues in both Las Vegas and the Pacific Northwest who specialize in a variety of healing modalities ranging from somatic healing, grief therapy, trauma healing, depth psychology, nature-based immersions, yoga, plant medicine ceremonies, psycho-spiritual development, and physical detoxification. Depending on exactly what you need, any combination of these practitioners can be woven into your optional "Retreat."
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As well, any of the Las Vegas based healers can be integrated into The Big Heart Path program, as is, without any extra cost to you! As mentioned, Sound Therapist Jessica is already woven into several of the included Connection Experiences—and Bekah & Chuck are available to lead or co-lead select Connection Experiences as well. To note: there are additional Las Vegas based facilitators available, too, depending on what your path requires. ​
There are also (unpictured) indigenous healers & elders who may be available for private or group work with you, during the course of The Big Heart Path program.​​
Jessica Foutz
Las Vegas
Heart-Centered Sound Therapist
Singer & Musician
Brewer of Sacred Cacao
About Jessica
Chuck Sebek
Las Vegas
Tabaquero
Nature-Based Intensives for Men
Hapé in the Wild
Bekah Andrew
Las Vegas
Intentional Yoga
Women's Health
Nature-Based Ceremonies for Women
https://www.benditwithbekah.com/
Anat LeBlanc
Pacific Northwest
Grief & Loss Counseling
Depth Psychology
Nature Immersions
Medicinal Intensives for:
Healing Trauma, Re-birthing, Personal Growth
https://www.anatleblanc.com/
Keri Padon
Pacific Northwest
Herbalism
Yin Yoga
Medicinal Intensives for:
Psycho-Spiritual Exploration & Healing
https://www.keripadonyoga.com/
E-mail me at jaclyn.costello@gmail.com or text 702.619.6219 to sign up for a 1.5-hour Introductory Session. This is a chance for us to meet, feel into whether there's a genuine resonance between us, and explore how The Big Heart Path can best support your unique relationship. The Introductory Session will be at my hourly rate ($180, or $150 cash/Venmo) with no obligation for you to sign up for the program.
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