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Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
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Healing
Healing occurs in the mind, heart, spirit, and body. Any system of self-improvement that does not address all of these essential components of the human being is lacking. I believe this so strongly I’ll repeat it: Any attempt to heal only one aspect of yourself without addressing the others, will ultimately lead to imbalance and unhappiness.
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The BIg Heart Path
an introduction to
​"Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends."
Hafiz
I believe that humans are on Earth to create and experience love. In other incarnations—as angels, gods, animals, trees, or pure & radiant streams of energy—we may be able to create and experience some other form of love, but never in the same uniquely special way we do as human beings: that tender, vulnerable, consciously mortal way of human loving. If someone were to ask me, "Why do you keep incarnating on Earth?" I could answer with something lofty—like being of service to humanity. Or I could be more honest and say, "For the pizza and the love."
What a miraculous gift: to love as a human being. That we are capable of generating such a profound force astounds me! And no matter how much love we offer, there is always more we can create, more we can channel. Despite all the risks and the pain—the heartbreaks, the abandonments, the anxiety of caring so deeply—we continue to love. Our hearts are broken open again and again, and still we continue loving. What incredible beings we are.
To experience love within the intimate container of relationship is a true blessing, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect that blessing in both my personal life, and in my work with couples. I hold the sacred bond of a committed partnership as one of the highest forms of embodied spiritual practice available to us.
I understand that not everyone holds the same perspective as me. Our beliefs about love are deeply personal, shaped by our values, our cultures, the relationships we saw modeled in childhood, our religious or non-religious upbringings, and the stories we absorbed through film and literature. They are also shaped by our longings and wounds—by ego, fantasy, desire, fear, and the imprint of past loves. Love appears in countless forms—romantic, ecstatic, unconditional, everlasting, platonic, fleeting, playful, soothing, erotic, karmic, dharmic...the expressions are endless!
But from one end of the spectrum to the other—whether we see love as an evolutionary of survival, bonding, and procreation, or we view love as a sacred vehicle for soul transformation and communion with the Divine—we cannot deny that love is one of the most powerful forces in existence.
In the Sufi creation story, the Universe began as a single, Divine Totality—one boundless, unified field of sacred energy.
And while this state of Oneness held immense fullness, it also carried a paradoxical lack, as there was no "Other" in existence to behold the One with love, awe, and devotion. In that absence, the Oneness that existed at the beginning of time began to feel a Divine sadness—a deep longing to be seen, known, and loved by an Other.
This was the motivation for the Oneness of God to divide itself into the myriad forms of life. In doing so, it created the conditions for reunion. Only then could it embark on the sacred journey of returning to fullness—through the experience of being seen, known, and loved by the Beloved. Love became the bridge between separation and wholeness.
When we are deeply seen, known, and loved by our Beloved, we are, in a very real sense, participating in Divine communion. Through our sacred union, we reunite with the One—as the One—through love.
Ram Dass once described sacred relationship as a kind of triangle. “One in which there are the two partners and a third force. This third force is that which emerges out of the interaction of these two partners. It is the shared awareness that lies behind the two of them. They are in this yoga of a relationship and have come together as one, in order to find the shared awareness that exists behind them, allowing them to then dance as two so that the twoness brings them into one and the oneness dances as two. That is the kind of vibrating relationship between the one and the two, so that people are both separate and yet they are not separate. But often, we come into a relationship very much identified with our needs at some level or other, and it really only gets extraordinarily beautiful when it becomes ‘us’ and then goes behind the ‘us’ and becomes ‘one.’”
I refer to this third force—the 'one' that is created between two people in a sacred relationship—as “The Big Heart." It is the consecrated vessel of the relationship itself—a living container where two souls pour their love, presence, and devotion, not just to hold each other, but to remember the divine fullness from which they came.
The Big Heart can also be thought of as an invisible sanctuary—one that holds not only each partner's needs, dreams, values, and longings, but also the shared desires and underlying currents of the relationship itself. Every word spoken, every action taken, every intention held within the partnership either nourishes or diminishes The Big Heart. In a truly sacred union, all choices are made in reverence to this third force, so that love becomes not just a feeling, but a shared spiritual practice.
Next-Level Couples Counseling
The Big Heart Path is a private, intimate, year-long journey designed for couples at all stages of relationship—whether you are newly in love or have spent decades building a life together.
For couples at the beginning of a new relationship, The Big Heart Path offers an extraordinary opportunity to build a solid foundation rooted in mindful awareness, shared values, and aligned intention. From the very start, you'll be guided to show up as your truest selves, so that as you move forward together, you'll do so consciously, honestly—and equipped with the tools and practices needed to remain in a powerful, happy relationship for years to come. Rather than unconsciously creating patterns & wounds that later require mending, you'll enter the voyage together with the presence, emotional clarity, and an attuned compass pointing to your shared True North—so you don't get lost at sea.
For couples in established marriages or long-term partnerships, The Big Heart Path serves as an invitation—to deepen what's already flourishing and take your relationship to the next level... or to wholly re-birth your relationship if it's grown stagnant or strained. Perhaps your connection is already strong, and you're seeking even greater intimacy, reverence, and aliveness within the union. Or maybe things have plateaued, and one or both of you feels unseen, unsupported, or uncelebrated—or the relationship is carrying trauma or outdated dynamics. In either case, The Big Heart Path will help you clarify what needs reinvigoration, guide you through healing and reconnection, reignite passion & joy, and support the transformation of old patterns that no longer serve your shared journey. It will also help you gentle refine any other areas blocking love from flowing freely between you.
Whatever the unique story of your relationship may be, I am honored to walk alongside you on this path. Together, we will move toward a reality that honors the dreams of each individual—and the evolving vision of the relationship itself.
Areas of Cultivation
Along The Big Heart Path, couples are guided to cultivate & embody the following practices, mindsets, and ways of being within their relationship:
Creating a Powerful, Nourishing "Big Heart" Container
Refining your Shared Path & Vision Together
Practicing Conscious, Peaceful Communication
Embracing Play, Excitement & Shared Joy
Learning Constructive, Mindful Approaches to Conflict
Meditating for Clarity, Connection & Compassion
Participating in Ceremonies to Celebrate, Heal, or Let Go
Committing to Honesty & Transparency
Understanding Communion in Partnership
Exploring & Deepening Sensual/Sexual Union
Expressing Deep Appreciation, Devotion, and Awe
Welcoming Vulnerability & Courageous Openness
Holding Space for One Another with Presence & Care
Building, Restoring, and Sustaining Trust
Supporting Each Other's Healing from Past Wounds
Knowing and Accepting One Another's Most Authentic Selves
Feeling Truly Heard, Seen, Loved, Respected, and Valued
Learning the Sacred Art of Reverence & Worship in Relationship
Relationship as Ceremony
“Where there is love, there is life.”
Mahatma Gandhi
The Structure of the Program
The Big Heart Path is a private, year-long journey composed of 15 themed modalities—each one thoughtfully designed to address core desires, needs, or challenges that commonly arise in romantic partnership. Couples will meet with me twice per month for dedicated Couples Counseling, during which we'll explore the current theme and how it relates to your unique relationship dynamic. Throughout the journey, we'll also weave in relevant Connection Experiences—meditations, rituals, and ceremonies—that invite deeper intimacy, dissolve resistance, surface hidden insights, catalyze necessary shifts, and allow essential truths to be felt with unmistakable clarity. These ceremonial sessions tend to run longer due to their immersive nature, while Couples Counseling sessions last two hours each.
Between our sessions, you'll be encouraged to practice integration—embodying the wisdom uncovered during our sessions, through self-guided "connection experiences", meaningful conversations, pattern shifts, and "relationship experiments" designed to help you anchor new ways of relating.
That said, The Big Heart Path will always be adapted to honor your relationship's specific needs—what you're comfortable exploring, where you wish to go deeper, and what brings each of you the greatest sense of progress & fulfillment. Neither partner will ever be asked to compromise their values or cross their boundaries.
From a logistical perspective:
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Some couples choose to meet once monthly for a longer, intensive counseling session instead of two shorter sessions.
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When needed, individual sessions for each partner can be arranged to support the collective relationship.
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An optional, customized Retreat may be incorporated into your journey—held in beautiful location either within the U.S. or abroad. This can be co-facilitated by one or more guest healers/guides, depending on your relationship's unique needs.
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Not based in Las Vegas? The Couples Counseling sessions can be conducted entirely over Zoom. Then, we can arrange for you to travel to Las Vegas twice over the course of the program for in-person "mini retreats" where you'll experience the deeper ceremonial and embodiment work
If you find yourselves intrigued by this program (or in need of it!), I invite you to reach out to me via the form at the bottom of this page and I will send you a private link to enter The Big Heart Path portal where you can view a detailed description of the program including descriptions of all 15 themed modalities, pricing, and FAQs.
After that, you are welcome to schedule a 1.5-hour Introductory Session. This sessions allows us to meet, explore whether there's a felt resonance between us, and discuss how The Big Heart Path can best support your unique relationship. The Introductory Session is offered at my standard hourly rate, with no obligation for you to sign up for the program.
I work with clients from wide range of spiritual and non-spiritual backgrounds. Your beliefs will always be respected, and you won’t be expected to change them at any point during our work together.
Personally, I consider myself a spiritual "free agent", unattached to any single doctrine or tradition (though I've explored many.) I'm comfortable working with Christians, Buddhists, Atheists, Taoists, Plant Medicine Enthusiasts, Jews, Existentialists, Muslims, Sufis, Mormons, Non-Dualists, Agnostics, Pagans, Druids, Priestesses—and however else you identify. The same openness applies to gender identity, sexual orientation, race/cultural background, and beyond.
The Big Heart Path is not a religious program—though can easily hold space for your religious or spiritual worldview. This journey is meant to be adaptive, responsive, and personalized. The program is mercurial by design—shaped around what each couple needs and desires, including the degree (or absence) of spiritual integration.
And for those of you who don't consider yourselves spiritual at all—and maybe even find words like communion and Divinity a bit off-putting—read on! What follows is a beautiful, scientifically grounded love story between two, brilliant, atheist minds: Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan.
"F​or small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love."​
Carl Sagan
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In the 1970's, astronomer Carl Sagan and his beloved fiancée, Ann Druyan, were part of a NASA team of scientists tasked with a nearly impossible feat: deciding what to place on a golden record affixed to the Voyager—an unmanned spacecraft bound for the far reaches of the galaxy, carrying humanity’s first message to the stars.
Ann later described ow difficult it was to determine what, exactly, should be included on that golden archive... that single disc was meant to carry the story of life on Earth, the distilled essence of the human experience. An archive that would, someday—maybe—be deciphered by other-worldly intelligences, should they ever come in contact with the spacecraft carrying it.
When the project was complete, the spaceship blasted off into space carrying music, photographs, greetings in 55 languages, a collection of Earthly sounds, a message from the United Nations, and... an EEG recording of a young woman's brainwaves as she thought about the man she loved.
It was Ann herself, madly in love with Carl, who volunteered to have her most intimate, love-charged thoughts encoded & launched into space—for non-human entities to someday find and catch a glimpse of what is surely one of the most precious and extraordinary experiences in the entire Universe: to love as a human being.
So I ask you: What kind of relationship are you cultivating?
Is it a love you'd deem worthy of blasting to the farthest corners of the cosmos?
This program is my most tender offering. It's the culmination of wisdom gained over fifteen years of Couples Counseling, Spiritual Guidance, and Ceremonies work with clients—alongside decades of my own dedicated cultivation practice.
If, after requesting & viewing The Big Heart Path materials, you feel that this program is a great fit for your journey, I would be honored. I approach this work with an immense amount of integrity & compassion—not only because it's the ethical thing to do, but also because love and sacred relationships are among my most deeply held values, and I do everything I can to honor and protect them, both in my own life and in the relationships I’m invited to support.
If you're ready to devote yourselves to your relationship's unique process of metamorphosis, I couldn't be happier to be chosen as your trusted guide.
If you find yourselves intrigued by this program, I invite you to reach out to me via this form, and I will send you a private link to enter The Big Heart Path portal where you can view a detailed description of the program including descriptions of all 15 themed modalities, pricing, and FAQs.
After that, you are welcome to schedule a 1.5-hour Introductory Session. This sessions allows us to meet, explore whether there's a felt resonance between us, and discuss how The Big Heart Path can best support your unique relationship. The Introductory Session is offered at my standard hourly rate, with no obligation for you to sign up for the program.
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