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​"Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends."
Hafiz

I believe that humans are on Earth to create and experience love. In any other incarnation - as angels, gods, animals, trees, pure & radiant energy - we may be able to create and experience some other form of love, but never in the same uniquely special way we do as human beings: that tender, vulnerable, consciously mortal way of human loving. If I were ever asked, "why do you keep incarnating here on Earth?" I could answer with a lofty reply about being of service to humanity, or I could be more honest and say, "for the pizza and the love."  

What a powerful gift: to love as a human being. The fact that we humans can generate such a profound force astounds me! And no matter how much love pours out of us, we always have the potential to create or channel more. And we keep sharing that love with others in spite of all the risks and pains, the past rejections and abandonments, the anxiety that comes from deep care. Our hearts are broken so many times, yet still, we continue loving. What incredible beings. 

To experience love within the intimate container of "relationship" is a true blessing, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect that blessing in both my personal life and when working with clients. I believe the sacred relationship between two people in a committed partnership is one of the highest forms of embodied spiritual practice available.

I understand that not everyone holds the same perspective as me. Beliefs about love are very personal and often tied to our values, cultures, religious or non-religious upbringings, and the models of relationships we witnessed in our parents, films, and novels. Beliefs about love are also shaped by our our fantasies, dreams, desires, ideals, egos, fears, and traumas. Love can be thought of as romantic, ecstatic, unconditional, everlasting, platonic, transient, playful, comforting, erotic, karmic, dharmic...the list goes on!

But from one extreme to the other - whether we simply view love as an evolutionary mechanism to aid with pair bonding, procreation, and survival, or we view love as a sacred vehicle for soul transformation and communion with God - we cannot deny that love is a most powerful phenomenon.  

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In the Sufi creation story, the Universe existed as One, Divine, Totality of Energy at the beginning of time.

And while there was a fullness to that state of being, there was also a paradoxical lack, as there was no "Other" in existence to gaze upon the "One" with love, awe, and devotion. Because of that sense of lack, the Oneness that existed at the beginning of time began to feel a Divine sadness - a deep longing to be seen, known, and loved by an Other. This was the motivation for the Oneness of God to divide itself into the multi-faceted, myriad forms of all living beings. It was only then that it could experience the journey of re-uniting back into ultimate fullness through the experience of being seen, known, and loved by the Beloved.

In a beautiful way, when we experience being truly seen, know, and loved by our own Beloved, we are experiencing Divine communion - the purpose of existence itself. We are re-uniting with God, as God, through our sacred union. 

Ram Das spoke of the sacred relationship as a sort of triangle. “One in which there are the two partners and a third force. This third force is that which emerges out of the interaction of these two partners. It is the shared awareness that lies behind the two of them. They are in this yoga of a relationship and have come together as one, in order to find the shared awareness that exists behind them, allowing them to then dance as two so that the twoness brings them into one and the oneness dances as two. That is the kind of vibrating relationship between the one and the two, so that people are both separate and yet they are not separate. But often, we come into a relationship very much identified with our needs at some level or other, and it really only gets extraordinarily beautiful when it becomes ‘us’ and then goes behind the ‘us’ and becomes ‘one.’”

I refer to this third force – the 'one' that is created between two people in a sacred relationship – as “The Big Heart,” and I believe that everything we do while in a sacred relationship should be nurturing & in service to The Big Heart. At the very least, neither partners' actions, thoughts, or motivations should be harmful to The Big Heart. 

The Big Heart can also be thought of as a sacred container for the relationship: a sanctuary that holds each partner's needs, desires, values, and dreams - as well as the needs, desires, values and dreams of the collective relationship. 

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The Big Heart Path is a private, intimate, year-long journey designed for both 1) couples in newly formed relationships, and 2) couples who have been together for decades. 

For couples newly in love, The Big Heart Path is an excellent way to build a solid foundation so you can move forward together aligned as your authentic selves, understanding each other deeply, and with the necessary tools & practices in place to remain in a powerful, happy relationship for years to come. This program will guide you cultivate mindful awareness in your relationship, right from the start, so you can avoid creating unintentional wounds that require great healing. Essentially, at the start of your voyage together through life, you will be handed a compass calibrated to 'True North' so you don't get lost at sea.

For couples already in a marriage or long-term partnership, The Big Heart Path is a nourishing opportunity to take your existing Love to the next level...or to entirely re-birth your relationship! Perhaps your relationship is already going exceptionally well and you're mainly interested in deepening your connection; The Big Heart Path will guide you to an even more conscious, reverent relationship where you both feel truly seen, supported, celebrated, and alive within the partnership. For couples in a relationships that have plateaued or are struggling, we'll examine the areas that require reinvigoration or strengthening, then move through the process of healing past wounds, reviving passion & joy, evolving old habits/tendencies that no longer serve the relationship, and refining any other areas that are blocking the Love from flowing freely between both of you.

Whatever the specific story of your relationship may be, I am honored to be welcomed into your life, to guide you along The Big Heart Path toward a reality that fulfills the individual dreams of each partner - as well as the collective dreams of the relationship.

Areas of Cultivation 

Some of the areas I help couples cultivate & embody along the Big Heart Path include:

Creating a Powerful "Big Heart" Container
Refining your Shared Path together
Practicing Conscious & Peaceful Communication
Embracing Play, Excitement & Joy together
Learning Constructive, Mindful Conflict Resolution
Meditating for Clarity, Connection & Compassion
Participating in Ceremonies for Celebration, Healing, or Letting Go
Committing to Honesty & Transparency
Understanding Communion in Relationship
Exploring & Deepening Sensual/Sexual Union
Sharing Deep Appreciation & Awe 
Welcoming Vulnerability & Openness
Holding Space for each other
Building & Restoring Trust
Helping each other Heal from Past Wounds
Knowing & Accepting each other's Authentic Selves
Feeling Heard, Seen, Loved, Respected, and Valued by each other
Learning the Sacred Art of Reverence & Worship in Relationship:​
Relationship as Ceremony

“Where there is love, there is life.”

Mahatma Gandhi

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The Structure of the Program

The Big Heart Path is a private, year-long program comprised of 15 themed modalities, each of which has been thoughtfully curated to address a common desire, need, or challenge found in romantic relationships. Couples will meet with me twice a month for Couples Counseling, during which we'll explore the current modality's theme and how it applies to their specific relationship. We will also periodically weave in relevant Connection Experiences (meditations, rituals, and ceremonies) that provide opportunities for deeper intimacy, the dissolution of resistance, necessary shifts to occur, and transmitted truths to be immediately felt with unshakable clarity. 

The Couples Counseling sessions run 2 hours long each, while the Connection Experiences are typically longer due to their ceremonial nature. In between our times together, couples are expected to practice integrating & embodying the wisdom uncovered during our sessions; I also encourage couples to try out various "relationship experiments" (i.e. self-guided connection experiences, specific conversations, alterations of patterns, and other homework assignments & relationship missions.) 

Having said all that, we will always adapt the Big Heart Path to suit your relationship's specific needs - what you're comfortable exploring, what you'd like to address with more or less precision, and what brings both of you the greatest sense of satisfaction. Neither partner will ever be expected to compromise their values or boundaries.

Logistically, if you prefer to meet for one, long intensive each month instead of two separate sessions, that is an option. There is also an optional, personalized Retreat that can be integrated into The Big Heart Path, mid-way through. This retreat can be held in a number of beautiful locations in the United States or abroad, and the experience will be co-lead by one or more healers/facilitators, depending on what you need.  

Don't live in the Las Vegas area? You are welcome to embark on The Big Heart Path virtually for the Couples Counseling sessions, then arrange to visit Las Vegas for two mini-retreats over the year, during which you'll experience the in-person meditations, rituals, and ceremonies.

If you find yourself intrigued by this program, reach out to me via the form at the bottom of this page and I'll send you a private link to enter The Big Heart Path portal where you can view a detailed description of the program including information about each of the 15 modalities, pricing, and FAQs. After that, if you'd like to schedule an Introductory Session to meet and see if there is a felt resonance between us, as well as learn more about how The Big Heart Path can best support your specific relationship, that session can be arranged with no obligation for you to sign up for the program. 

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I work with clients from an array of spiritual and non-spiritual backgrounds; your beliefs will always be respected, and you won’t be expected to change them. Personally, I consider myself a "free agent" and don't hold firm attachments to any religious, spiritual, or philosophical vantage points (though I explore a good many of them.) I'm comfortable working with Christians, Buddhists, Atheists, Taoists, Plant Medicine Enthusiasts, Jewish folks, Existentialists, Muslims, Sufis, Mormons, Non-Dualists, Agnostics, Pagans, Druids, Priestesses, or however else you identify. The same acceptance applies to gender identities, sexual orientations, and races. 

The Big Heart Path itself is not a religious one, though it certainly can be if your relationship is religious! This program is designed to work for a wide variety of couples, and, as mentioned earlier, it is mercurial in nature; we will adapt the path according to exactly what each of you desires - including more/less/no integration of spirituality.

In fact, for those of you who don't consider yourselves spiritual at all (and are perhaps turned off by all this talk of "communion" and "Divinity" in relationships), read on! What follows is a beautiful, scientific love story between two, brilliant, atheist minds: Carl Sagan & Ann Druyan.

"F​or small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love."​

Carl Sagan
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In the 1970's, astronomer Carl Sagan and his beloved fiancée, Ann Druyan, were part of a team of scientists that sent an unmanned spaceship from Earth to the far reaches of the galaxy. Ann wrote about how difficult it was to decide exactly what to put on the golden record attached to the side of that spaceship. That one record was meant to contain valuable information about all of life on Earth - the entire human experience! - which would someday, maybe, be deciphered by other-worldly intelligences, should they ever come in contact with the ship.

When the project was complete, the spaceship blasted off containing music, photographs, greetings in 55 languages, a mixture of Earthly sounds, a salutation from the United Nations, and…an EEG containing the brain waves of a young woman thinking about the man she loved.

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It was Ann herself, madly in love with Carl, who volunteered to have her most intimate, love-filled thoughts archived for non-human entities to someday find & interpret, so that they might catch a glimpse of what is surely one of the most precious and extraordinary experiences in the entire Universe: to love as a human being.

What kind of relationship are you cultivating? Is it one you'd deem worthy of blasting to the furthest corners of the Universe!?

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This program is my most tender offering. It's the culmination of wisdom gained over fifteen years of Couples Counseling, Spiritual Guidance, and Ceremonies with clients, as well as decades of my own cultivation practice. I approach this work with an immense amount of integrity & compassion - not only because that is the ethical thing to do, but also because love and relationships are two of my own most deeply held values, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect them.

If after requesting & viewing the The Big Heart Path materials, you feel this program is a great fit for what you need and you're ready to make a devotional commitment to your relationship's unique process of metamorphosis, I couldn't be happier to be chosen as your trusted guide.

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Want to learn more? Reach out to me via this form, and I will send you a private link to enter The Big Heart portal where you can view a detailed description of the program, including information about each of the 15 themed modalities, pricing, and FAQs.

After that, if you'd like to schedule an Introductory Session to meet and see if there is a felt resonance between us, as well as to learn more about how The Big Heart Path can best serve your specific relationship, that session can be arranged with no obligation for you to sign up for the program. 

The information entered into the form below will remain confidential.

Thank you! I will be in touch with more information shortly. Until then, Many Blessings.

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