Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
Spirituality
Spiritual revelations do not arrive from thinking long & hard about Divinity. They come through silencing our thoughts, moving our ego out of the way, and opening up to the quiet, mysterious, spiritual realm that is always here with us. The world of soul is here and now, superimposed and woven through the world of the five sense. It doesn't take belief. It is Reality itself. You must only learn to see beyond the veils.
“There is another world, but it is in this one."
–W.B. Yeats
Healing
Healing occurs in the mind, heart, spirit, and body. Any system of self-improvement that does not address all of these essential components of the human being is lacking. I believe this so strongly I’ll repeat it: Any attempt to heal only one aspect of yourself without addressing the others, will ultimately lead to imbalance and unhappiness.
Devotional Partnership
Couples Counseling Centered on Presence, Reverence, and Deeper Awareness
"Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends."
Hafiz
I believe human beings are on Earth to create and experience love. In any other incarnations—as angels, animals, mountains, trees, or beings of pure energy—we may encounter other ways of loving, but never in quite the same way we do as human beings: that tender, vulnerable, consciously mortal form of loving another while knowing everything we cherish will one day disappear.
If someone were to ask me, "Why do you keep incarnating on Earth?" my most honest answer might be, "For the pizza and the love."
To experience love within the intimate container of relationship feels both rare and deeply meaningful, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect that blessing in both my personal life and my work with couples. I believe a committed partnership can be one of the deepest forms of embodied relational and spiritual practice available to us.
I understand that not everyone holds the same perspective as I do. Our beliefs about love are deeply personal, shaped by our values, our cultures, the relationships we witnessed in childhood, our religious or non-religious upbringings, and the stories we absorbed through film and literature. They are also shaped by our longings and wounds—by ego, fantasy, desire, fear, and the imprint of past loves. Love appears in countless forms: romantic, ecstatic, unconditional, everlasting, platonic, fleeting, playful, soothing, erotic, karmic, dharmic...the expressions are endless.
And yet, across this entire spectrum—whether we understand love as an evolutionary process of survival, bonding, and procreation, or as a vehicle for devotion, transformation, and profound communion—we cannot deny that love remains one of the most powerful forces in existence.
the big heart
In the Sufi creation story, the Universe began as a single Divine Totality—one unified field of sacred consciousness.
Yet within that primordial Oneness, there was a paradox: though complete, there was no Other in existence to behold the One with love, awe, and devotion. In that absence, the Oneness at the beginning of time began to feel a Divine longing—not born of lack, but of a desire to be seen, known, and loved by an Other.
From this longing, creation unfolded. The Oneness of God divided itself into the myriad forms of life, and in doing so, created the conditions for reunion. Only through separation could creation embark on the journey of returning to fullness through the sacred experience of being truly seen, known, and loved by the Beloved. Love became the bridge between division and wholeness, between individuality and reunion.
When we are deeply seen, known, and loved by our Beloved, we are, in a very real sense, participating in Divine communion. We are reuniting with the One—as the One—through love.
Ram Dass once described relationship as a kind of triangle: two individuals, and a third presence created between them through love and shared awareness. “One in which there are the two partners and a third force. This third force is that which emerges out of the interaction of these two partners. It is the shared awareness that lies behind the two of them. They are in this yoga of a relationship and have come together as one, in order to find the shared awareness that exists behind them, allowing them to then dance as two so that the twoness brings them into one and the oneness dances as two. That is the kind of vibrating relationship between the one and the two, so that people are both separate and yet they are not separate."
I refer to this third force—the 'one' that is created between two people in a sacred relationship—as The Big Heart.
The Big Heart is the consecrated vessel of the relationship itself: a living relational field that holds not only each partner's needs, values, and longings, but also the shared love, presence, and devotion they create together. Every word spoken, every action taken, every intention either nourishes or diminishes The Big Heart.
When both people begin fully orienting toward this shared field, they loosen their identification with separateness and remember the deeper unity from which they came. Choices are made in reverence to this third force, so that love becomes not just a feeling, but a shared spiritual practice.
partnership & Practice
I work with couples at many different stages of relationship: those newly entering love, those already building a life together, and those attempting to rediscover one another after years of distance, conflict, or change.
In the beginning of a relationship, love often arrives with intensity, openness, and possibility. Yet even in the earliest stages, unconscious dynamics are forming beneath the surface. Many couples never learn how to communicate honestly, remain calm and present during difficulty, navigate conflict without defensiveness, or recognize the subtle ways fear, projection, control, avoidance, and past wounds begin shaping the relationship over time. The sooner two people learn to meet one another with awareness, honesty, emotional maturity, and shared intention, the stronger the foundation they create together. Partnership itself touches the existential terrain of intimacy, freedom, trust, meaning, and what it asks of us to fully share a life with another person.
Long-term relationships bring different challenges. Over time, responsibilities accumulate. Communication can lose its attentiveness. Intimacy can erode beneath stress, resentment, exhaustion, distraction, parenthood, ambition, or grief. Couples can begin moving beside one another rather than consciously toward one another, and slowly stop tending the relationship with the same care, curiosity, generosity, and presence they once brought to it. Sometimes two people still deeply love one another, yet no longer feel fully seen, desired, understood, or emotionally met.
Whatever the unique story of your relationship may be, I would be honored to walk alongside you in the work of protecting, deepening, repairing, or reimagining the life you are creating together.
Areas of Cultivation
During our time together, couples are guided to embody the following within their relationship:
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Practicing grounded, conscious communication
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Committing to honesty and transparency
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Holding space for one another with presence and care
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Deepening trust, vulnerability, and emotional safety
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Feeling truly heard, seen, loved, respected, and valued
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Learning how to repair after rupture or misunderstanding
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Supporting one another's healing from past wounds
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Recognizing and interrupting destructive relational patterns
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Encouraging one another’s growth while honoring autonomy
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Embracing play, excitement, and shared joy
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Exploring and deepening sensual and sexual union
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Cultivating and protecting the relational field you share
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Understanding partnership as a form of communion
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Expressing deep appreciation, devotion, and awe
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Cultivating reverence within the relationship
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Creating rituals of connection, reflection, and repair
What if we aren't spiritual?
Experiences of deep intimacy, meaning, and connection are not exclusive to spirituality or religion.
I was raised Catholic, though over time I became less attached to any single tradition and more interested in the enduring questions that gave birth to them all. I work comfortably with clients from a wide range of religious, spiritual, philosophical, and non-spiritual backgrounds, and your worldview will always be respected. This same openness extends across identity, orientation, and culture, and lived experience.
For those of you who don't consider yourselves spiritual at all—and perhaps even find words like communion a bit off-putting—what follows is a beautiful, scientifically grounded love story between two brilliant atheist minds: Carl Sagan and Ann Druyan.
"For small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love."
Carl Sagan
In the 1970's, astronomer Carl Sagan and his beloved partner, Ann Druyan, were part of a NASA team tasked with a nearly impossible feat: deciding what to place on a golden record affixed to the Voyager, an unmanned vessel bound for the far reaches of the galaxy, carrying humanity’s first message to the stars.
Ann later described ow difficult it was to determine what, exactly, should be included on that golden archive. That single disc was meant to carry the story of life on Earth—the distilled essence of the human experience. An archive that might someday be encountered and deciphered by non-human intelligences from deep in the cosmos.
When the project was complete, the Voyager launched carrying music, photographs, greetings in 55 languages, a collection of Earthly sounds, a message from the United Nations, and—most tenderly—an EEG recording of a young woman's brainwaves as she thought about the man she loved.
It was Ann herself, madly in love with Carl, who volunteered to encode her most intimate, love-filled thoughts and send them into space—for other-worldly intelligences to someday find and catch glimpse of what may be one of the most precious and extraordinary experiences in the Universe: to love as a human being.
Which brings me to ask you this: What kind of relationship are you cultivating? Is it a love you would consider worthy of sending into the farthest reaches of the cosmos?
scheduling
At this time, my practice is full and I am not accepting new clients. However, Jessica Foutz and I remain available to work with groups interested in medicinal sound, hapé, and shamanic ceremonies.
If you are interested in working together in the future, please feel free to reach out. I would be happy to notify you when space becomes available.
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