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Conscious Couples Counseling Las Vegas - Holistic Therapist - Couples Counseling Las Vegas - Sacred Relationships
Conscious Couples Counseling Las Vegas - Holistic Therapist - Couples Counseling Las Vegas - Sacred Relationships
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Couples Counseling Therapist Summerlin Las Vegas

"Your heart and my heart are very, very old friends."
Hafiz

I believe that humans are on Earth to create and experience love. In any other incarnation - as angels, gods, animals, trees, pure and radiant energy - we may be able to create and experience some other form of love, but never in the same uniquely special way that we do as human beings...that tender, vulnerable, consciously mortal way of human loving. If I were ever asked, "why do you keep incarnating here on Earth?" I could answer with a lofty reply about being of service to humanity, or I could be more honest and say, "for the pizza and the love."  

What a powerful gift: to love as a human being. The fact that we humans can generate such a profound force astounds me! And no matter how much love pours out of us, we always have the ability to create more, an
d we keep sharing that love in spite of all the risks and pains, the past rejections and abandonments, the anxiety that comes from deep care. Our hearts are broken so many times, yet still, we continue loving. What incredible beings. 

To experience love within the intimate container of "relationship" is a true blessing, and I do everything I can to nurture and protect that blessing in both my personal life and when working with clients. I believe the sacred relationship between two people in a committed partnership is one of the highest forms of embodied spiritual practice available.

I understand that not everyone holds the same perspective as me. Beliefs about love are very personal and often tied to our values, cultures, religious or non-religious upbringings, models of relationships we witnessed from our parents, the media, and the films, & novels we consume. Beliefs about love are also shaped by our our fantasies, dreams, desires, ideals, egos, fears, and traumas. Love can be thought of as romantic, ecstatic, unconditional, everlasting, friendly, empathetic, platonic, transient, playful, comforting, erotic, karmic, the list goes on.

But from one extreme to the other - whether we simply view love as an evolutionary mechanism to aid with pair bonding, procreation, and survival...or we view love as a sacred vehicle for soul transformation and communion with God - we cannot deny that love is a most powerful phenomenon.  

Areas of Cultivation 

Some of the elements I help couples cultivate in their relationship include:

Conscious and Peacef
ul Communication

Feelings of Safety and Protection
Deep Appreciation & Awe 
Significance and Respect (feeling seen & valued)
Creating a Powerful Container/Shared Path Together
Compassion
Connection and Communion
Vulnerability and Openness
Sensual/Sexual Union
Restoring Trust
Honesty and Transparency
Playfulness and Excitement

Integrity
Reverence/Worship (relationship as spiritual path)
Ceremonies for re-commitment, "letting go", & healing
I'm also licensed in Nevada to perform marriages

“Where there is love, there is life.”

Mahatma Gandhi

I’m here to help you gain clarity on which elements of your relationship need strengthening. Together, we'll work through the process of reviving your relationship, including resolving any tensions due to deception, resentment, lack of passion, misunderstandings, or other areas you feel mis-aligned. Or perhaps your relationship is already going exceptionally well, and you're coming to me because you're interested in taking that partnership to even deeper and more meaningful domains; I am honored to be welcomed into your life and help guide you along the way.

Sacred Partnerships - Marriage Counseling Las Vegas Summerlin

In the Sufi creation story, the Universe existed as One, Divine, Totality of Energy at the beginning of time.

While there was absolutely a "fullness" in that state of being, there was also a paradoxical lack, as there was no "Other" in existence to gaze upon the "One" with love, awe, and devotion. Because of that sense of lack, the Oneness of God that existed at the beginning of time began feeling a Divine sadness - a deep longing to be seen, known, and loved by an Other. This was the motivation for the Oneness of God to divide itself into the multi-faceted, myriad forms of all living beings. It was only then that it could experience the journey of re-uniting back into fullness, through the experience of being seen, known, and loved by the Beloved.

In a beautiful way, when we experience being seen, known, and loved by our own Beloved, we are experiencing Divine communion - the purpose of existence itself. We are re-uniting with God, as God, through our sacred union.

Ram Das spoke of this sacred relationship as a sort of triangle. “One in which there are the two partners and a third force. This third force is that which emerges out of the interaction of these two partners. It is the shared awareness that lies behind the two of them. They are in this yoga of a relationship and have come together as one, in order to find the shared awareness that exists behind them, allowing them to then dance as two so that the twoness brings them into one and the oneness dances as two. That is the kind of vibrating relationship between the one and the two, so that people are both separate and yet they are not separate. But often, we come into a relationship very much identified with our needs at some level or other, and it really only gets extraordinarily beautiful when it becomes ‘us’ and then goes behind the ‘us’ and becomes ‘one.’”

I refer to this third force – the 'one' that is created between two people in a sacred relationship – as “The Big Heart,” and I believe that everything we do while in a sacred relationship should be nurturing to The Big Heart. At the very least, neither partners' actions, thoughts, or motivations should be harmful to The Big Heart. 

Another way to look at this is to perceive the relationship as a sacred ceremony, a continual, glorious, powerful, transformative ceremony! Whenever you and your partner are in each other’s presence, each of you holds the awareness that you are now in a holy space - as if you've just entered a church, temple, mosque, or other sacred space of God. This mindset allows both partners to always be in each other's presence in an elevated state of consciousness - in the same reverent, heightened state of consciousness that you would bring to a holy ritual, prayer, or ceremony. It's important that you practice this all the time. This is what I mean when I say, “the relationship itself is the spiritual practice.” If you can maintain a meditative, non-reactive, compassionate, peaceful, aware, high-vibrational presence every moment when encountering your Beloved, you have certainly mastered something! But as I said, it’s a practice. An art. Like any spiritual path, it involves a constant becoming, ever deeper awareness, subtle refinements, and a constant revealing of the true self while simultaneously annihilating all that's false inside you.

This might sound much more challenging than an average, status-quo relationship...but it's worth it. The fruits that a relationship bares when it's treated as holy are the most nourishing fruits - infinitely more nourishing than the fruits from a relationship treated as anything less than Divine. As well, the initial challenge of continual, present, loving awareness eventually subsides as the practice becomes more natural and effortless, leading to a partnership in which both lovers simply bask in the love & depth they've cultivated together (well, with some minor refinements here and there!)

I once gave a speech at a wedding for a couple who embody conscious union. Cheryl & Rico understand that marriage, in its purest sense, is a promise to help each other evolve, support each other’s most magnificent dreams, and cultivate the greatest love possible between two human beings: a love that encourages each person to experience communion with the Divine.

Cheryl & Rico's shared values on love are one of the many reasons they are a great match for each other, but they also share a lot of common interests, too. One of their shared obsessions is with outer space. In fact, the theme of their wedding was Cosmic Exploration, and on each of the guest tables (adorned with models of planetary systems & stars) was a quote about space, embossed in gold, on a small stand. My table had a quote from the famous astronomer Carl Sagan:



"F​or small creatures such as we, the vastness is bearable only through love."


Cheryl & Rico have experienced that vastness - and so much of what exists inside it. Not just the joys & the ecstasies; they’ve experienced the challenges, the uncertainties, the unanswered questions, the chaos and confusion. Yet, even during those moments of extreme stress, tragedy, loss, and fear, they continued along their journey, side by side, with compassion and maturity beyond their years. I was honored to be part of their wedding ceremony, and this little portion of my website is a shout-out to their love.

As well, their story is here to act as a transition to some final thoughts on love. For those of you who don't consider yourselves spiritual (and are perhaps turned off by all this talk of "Divinity" and "sacredness" in relationships), read on! What follows is a beautiful, scientific love story between two, brilliant, atheist minds: Carl Sagan & Ann Druyan.

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An Interstellar Love Story

Carl Sagan and his beloved fiancée, Ann Druyan, were part of a team of scientists in the 1970’s that sent an unmanned spaceship from Earth to the far reaches of the galaxy. Ann wrote about how difficult it was to decide exactly what to put on the golden record attached to the side of that spaceship. That one record was meant to contain valuable information about all of life on Earth - the entire human experience! - which would someday, maybe, be deciphered by other-worldly intelligences, should they ever come in contact with the ship.

When the project was complete, the spaceship blasted off containing music, photographs, greetings in 55 languages, a mixture of Earthly sounds, a salutation from the United Nations, and…
an EEG containing the brain waves of a young woman thinking about the man she loved.

It was Ann herself, madly in love with Carl, who volunteered to have her most intimate, love-filled thoughts archived for non-human entities to someday find & interpret, so that they might catch a glimpse of what is surely one of the most precious and extraordinary experiences in the entire Universe: to love as a human being.

What kind of relationship are you cultivating? Is it one you'd deem worthy of blasting to the furthest corners of the Universe!?

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